Is it possible for a human being to be monogamous? Ponder that question for a moment and while you do so, think about past relationships you've had where you cheated or got cheated on. If neither applies to you, don't read any further. Ok, just kidding, you can read on if you like. For those of you who have been a victim or culprit in cheating, I invite you to pay close attention.
To answer the question of monogamy, it's certainly possible for a person to be loyal to their partner without going astray. In fact, I'm sure we've all been in relationships where cheating wasn't even a factor. However, once you've been with someone who has cheated or you have committed the act of betrayal, it can potentially change your perspective of relationships for the rest of your life.
If you have cheated once before, realized it was a mistake and corrected that mistake, we all commend you. You've changed to become a better person. Unfortunately, not all people are like that. Repetitive cheater's or people who cheat in almost every relationship they're in, possess the inability to change there behavior. Furthermore, partners who are in a relationship with someone and have cheated on that person multiple times are no different. Once a cheater, always a cheater. I'm sure you've heard that saying before and sadly it applies to millions of people. If you're brave enough to admit being a "repetitive cheater" and want to change, you're taking the first step toward a healthier lifestyle.
First, let's examine the traits/characteristics of someone who is unable to be loyal in a relationship. It's safe to say that a person who cheats on a regular basis is unhappy with themselves and/or their partner. However, it's cowardly to betray your partner because you're unhappy with them. The mature thing to do would be to communicate with them about the things that dissatisfy you and work towards correcting them. If a resolution can not be met than go your separate ways, rather than staying together and continuing the pattern of cheating. Next, someone who cheats even if they are satisfied with their partner is a person with more deep-rooted issues.
Compulsive cheaters who are happy with their significant other are clearly unhappy within themselves. They starve for attention even if their partner gives them ample. Therefore, they seek out others to satisfy this craving. In addition, cheaters lack greatly in the morals and values department. Honesty, loyalty, trust, respect, dignity and most importantly love, are all things a routine cheater has no grasp of. These important aspects of a relationship should've been instilled in them at some point in life. The failure to possess these types of qualities can lead one to believe a severe lack of maturity exists within a person who often cheats. It's also apparent they do not care about the consequences of there actions or how they hurt their partner, especially if they continue to betray.
Last, let's evaluate the victims of betrayal in relationships who continue to stay with their cheating partner. It’s a no-brainer; someone who sticks with a repetitive cheater doesn’t have the inner strength to let that person go. Also, if you’ve dated people who continuously cheated, you become accustomed/conditioned to those types of relationships. Why would you stand by someone who continues to hurt you? Victims of multiple cheaters/cheating who cannot part with their significant other have some deep-rooted issues of there own.
Self-respect, self-worth, confidence, and an overall idea that they believe they deserve someone better are values they lack. Most people will tell you it's hard for them to let go of a cheating partner because they love them. However, with that “L” word comes much responsibility. Trust, honesty, loyalty, etc. are all associated with that word. Remember, someone who vocalizes “I love you” to you, breaks that commitment when they repeatedly cheat. In addition, when you take back a cheating lover multiple times, you’re giving them the opportunity to hurt you again in the future. With that being said, they don’t really love you if they have no problem breaking your trust on multiple occassions. Know within yourself you deserve better and better things will come.
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